中国女人！请不要上老外的床（新东方校长俞敏洪夫人写）

I can't remember how I came across this article but I seem to recall that there is a link to it on Sammyboy. The original article is in Chinese but some cracker translated it to English. Unfortunately, his standard of English is shockingly poor. For the benefit of my readers, I have taken the trouble of 'recycling' his chopped-up rubbish into something coherent. However, if you are a masochist and wish to torture yourself, you can read his translated version.

Chinese women! Please don’t get into bed with foreigners.

If you ask a foreigner why he came to China, he’ll usually tell you: “Because I admire China’s long history, wonderful culture, the stunning scenery, the breakneck development, the amazing changes.”

But I tell you, apart from the very few who are sponsored by the government, and those who are backed by large companies, the overwhelming majority are here for two reasons:

- They can’t support themselves very well at home, or maybe even can’t support themselves at all.
- They come for the Chinese girls.

One afternoon, me and my friend (a French girl), were returning home from eating out. We were at the entrance of our place of work. Far away opposite where we were standing, an old guy was collecting rubbish and pushing a small cart. At this point the French girl poked me, “”Did you see that?”

“See what?” I replied, bewildered.

“In front of you.”

I then discovered that the old guy was a foreigner. His hair was long, dirty, and messy. No wonder I thought that he was just a garbage collector. The cart in front of him was not for carrying rubbish; in it was a baby of mixed parentage. I then noticed a young, beautiful, and statuesque Chinese girl was beside him.

The French girl giggled, “Why do Chinese girls do this?” She was laughing because we were discussing this ‘issue’ during our meal. Actually, I’d already heard stories about this kind of foreigners with Chinese girls, but I’d never thought anything of it. Before my eyes, however, was a sight too powerful to ignore: a gorgeous Chinese girl with an old, ugly, dirty, short, bald, and shrivelled foreigner, and their baby in a push-chair.

The French girl wouldn’t stop laughing - I had no idea why she was laughing like that - and at that moment, as a Chinese, my self-respect was affected deeply.

Several days later, I made three decisions:
- Tell everybody the ugly truth about the foreigners I know.
- Inspire the Chinese people to rise up and stop Chinese girls from fawning over foreign men.
- Research on how foreign women look at Chinese men so that I could use the knowledge gained to help Chinese men attract foreign women.

To address the issue. My first act was to go with my colleagues to interview some white women who live in China and who have never had a Chinese boyfriend. More importantly, we wanted to go and interview those who had dated or married Chinese men and invite them to tell us the strengths and weaknesses of Chinese men. I know that foreigners who fit this description are few, but luckily, I’ve already met several.

Taking a more systematic approach, we also handed out a questionnaire to these white women, to get them to describe how they view Chinese men, and try to find out who are the five most charming Chinese men that they could think of. This research will answer for me these questions:

- Are foreign women interested in Chinese men?

- What do the single foreign women in China want most from a foreign man?

- What can Chinese men do to make themselves more attractive to foreign women?

- What kind of Chinese men are most attractive to foreign women?

- What kind of foreign women go for Chinese guys?

- How do you meet foreign women?

- In public, how does one approach a foreign woman?

- When did China become a heaven for foreign men?

John is one such example. Not long ago, I met him on the street, holding hands with a Chinese girl who is taller than him. Introducing himself, he said that his Chinese girlfriend works for the Home and Motors Company.

John is an American, 42 years old, and 1.67 metres in height. As he was a university dropout, he couldn’t get himself a decent job. After living in Africa for a couple of years, he heard ‘get rich quick’ stories of many Americans in China, and decided to come to China. Although he was not yet familiar with life in China, he managed to get himself an English teaching job in a small town in Jiangsu.

John wasn’t happy. After a couple of months in Jiangsu, he came to Shanghai to look for work. He stayed in a cheap hotel for 12 yuan a night. I met him there. That day I met with a foreign friend for a meal. As I saw them chatting, I thought she knew John, so I invited him over to our table. I didn’t know they had just met.

When we were ordering dinner, John ordered a pretty expensive dish,. My friend asked him in English, “The thing you ordered was pretty expensive. Do you intend to pay for it yourself?” John carried on like a kid who’d been caught doing something naughty. I saw him racking his brain. I told my friend in Chinese not to worry and then in English, told him to continue choosing.

After that, because of work and other responsibilities, I quickly forgot about him. The next time I saw him, he told me that he’d found an English teaching job in a school in Shanghai. I didn’t talk to his girlfriend, but I could tell that she looked down on Chinese people. Looking at her background, I was tempted to think, I bet she doesn’t know that her American once relied on other people to buy him dinner. This is rather too similar to a fairytale. It’s obviously manmade, and after making it up, a man goes and lives it.

Also, on a Shanghai bus, I spotted a typical American street-hood with a young Chinese girl. And in broad daylight, he put his hand under her shirt and started feeling her breasts. After ten minutes, the Chinese girl clearly wanted to say that her breasts had had enough stroking, but unfortunately her English ability was rudimentary at best.

A taxi driver told me that once outside a famous bar, he met a black man with both his hands aound a Chinese girl. Originally, he thought that she was a working girl so he wasn’t bothered, but they ended asking them to drop her off at the dormitories of a famous college. He was shocked.

It’s been reported that, a hospital in Beijing received a AIDS patient, an American businessman who confessed before dying, in the preceding weeks in Beijing, he had been with six Chinese women Further investigation, revealed most of them were respected intellectuals.

This kind of foreigners can’t find jobs in their own country. They use their status as foreigners in China to get money, chug beer, and chase women. Their only hobby is criticizing China. Some diplomats even use their position to have their way with Chinese girls. Some even publicly say, “My identity can get me any Chinese girl I want.”

China, do you know, you give foreigners too much, way too much, and in return, foreigners do nothing but look down on you. You should call them something even they are not used to. Call them white trash. I also want to take this opportunity to officially tell these foreigners. “Don’t congratulate yourselves too much, you’ve only had the flesh of Chinese girls, not their souls nor the best of what they have to offer.”

Recently, a joke has been doing the rounds on the Chinese internet sites about a foreigner seeking marriage in China:

A 47 year-old foreigner signed himself up at a Chinese marriage-agency but for a long time there were no inquiries. Then suddenly one day, he received two marriage proposals. The foreigner was shocked. Investigation revealed that one of the staff at the marriage agency had put his age at 67.

An independent survey recently confirmed that Chinese women don’t marry foreign men for love. It also discovered, the average age gap between a Chinese woman marrying a Western man is 10.5 years. 13% are of entirely different generations - a full 20-year age gap. It is reported that the record age gap for a Chinese-foreign marriage is 54 years. On the day they were married the American man was 82 and the Chinese girl was 28.

Incidentally, I recently saw a joke in an American magazine. It goes like this: “A man in his eighties took his pregnant wife (in her twenties) to the hospital. The doctor gently asked him if it was possible that the baby could have been someone else’s. The old man replied, “No way, I can perform miracles. Once, when my wife and I went hunting with one of her boyfriends, I used an umbrella to point at a deer, that deer just dropped dead there and then.”

I don’t know if that Chinese girl will get pregnant, but it definitely makes one respect the human capacity for creating miracles. You might have achieved something, but you’ve lost the most valuable thing: self-respect.

Needless to say, the instigators of these ugly foreigners’ success are the Chinese women. But for these women, most of whom have never been abroad, their brains are full of fantasies. So, today I want to take this opportunity to tell them the truth. If you’ve found true love, I congratulate you and wish you luck. Personally I say, if it’s true love, then no matter what troubles the future brings, it’s worth pursuing.

Nevertheless, I also want to warn you. Firstly, Chinese women seek marriages that are stable. However, in developed Western countries, the divorce rate is around 50% and for inter-racial marriages, the rate is even higher.

Secondly, I find it highly unlikely that the foreign men of today can give Chinese girls true love because the first ingredient of true love is respect. And in the eyes of foreign men, the image of Chinese women has already been ruined by that minority, It’s already changed. They are now the world’s most open, most forward, least careful, simple-minded, half-witted, stupid and easy girls. It’s very hard to believe that any man would give true love to this kind of girl. I only have one example, I heard an American say he was looking for an Asian girl who was a combination of maid, cook, and sex worker.

Maybe you’re only after money. I understand you and I don’t blame you. But I want to tell you, before committing yourself, you should be certain of two things: i) Is this foreigner really rich? (I know many foreigners in China are not rich.) ii) Does he want to marry you? If he doesn’t marry you, then his wealth will have nothing to do with you.

Maybe you want to travel abroad. Again, I don’t blame you. But before you commit yourself you should be certain of two things: i) This foreigner wants to go home. The outside world is generally wealthier than China, but it’s certainly not heaven. The dangerous part is, many foreigners in China don’t want to go home, because they can’t find decent work at home,, let alone any work. They don’t want to go home to return to that idle, lonely life. Ii) Does he want to marry you? If he doesn’t marry you, then you’ll never acquire the right to settle in his country.

My colleague’s neighbour’s daughter married a Japanese mountain farmer. The neighbour often says some analogies in front of my colleague “Now we don’t care about money. 100,000, 200,000 is a small number.” But, my neighbour replies, “Do you know if your daughter’s really happy in Japan? Chinese people are obsessed with face. They will always tell the good news, and keep the bad news under wraps. Some years ago, a Chinese TV show interviewed a Chinese girl who had married into a Japanese farming community. From lively, vibrant, colourful Shanghai to the remote, cold hills of Japan, the Chinese girl could only express disappointment and helplessness.

Maybe you’re after sex. In Australia, a female author, Miss Shi, has written, “I have a girlfriend. By Chinese standards she is extremely open, a woman of vast sexual experience. The first time she was with a wWstern man, she felt an extreme pleasure. She told me over the phone that the feeling this Western man was so good that she wanted to marry him, and I calmly told her, “8 out of 10 western men are great in bed, 2 out of 10 are average. 2 out of 10 are awful.”

By saying this, Miss Shi really stirred the pot. Swathes of Chinese men came out of the woodwork to defend themselves. This topic had been discussed in our local newspapers over several months, it’s even spilled over into parts of the international media. Apparently, this is a very sensitive subject for Chinese men.

Granted, this 2/10 figure was subjective. What are Chinese men really like in bed? I did my own investigation.

This time my subject was not Chinese women who had married Western men. I wanted to ask white women who had married Chinese men, or had once had a Chinese boyfriend. I bluntly asked them one question,: what are Chinese men like in bed? They bluntly replied, very good, some even said perfect. One even responded with a question of her own: “are Chinese men not confident in their own sexual prowess?”

I should continue my investigation. After I have finished my research I will make my findings public.

I’d like to tell everyone, the latest research on sex shows that, a woman’s pleasure in bed does not depend on the man she is with, it depends on herself. This research goes to show, a woman’s failure to enjoy herself in bed is usually the result of her own suppression of her own spirit. As long as women can raise above this repression, then they can be as happy and carefree as men in bed, perhaps even more so. This research proves that the real reason Miss Shi’s friend experienced so much pleasure the first time she was with a Western man was because of what he represented to her allowed her to let go of her repression.

The most recent studies have shown that men and women have similar responses to sexual stimulation. Previously, it was believed that men depended on visual stimulation and women depended on atmosphere and ambience to prepare for sex. This had been used to explain why men like to watch porn. But visual stimulation can also arouse women, even to the point of orgasm.

I can tell you, Chinese men’s problem is not physical, it is psychological. What is Chinese men’s biggest problem? Lack of sexual technique. Western men’s advantages are that in both urban and rural areas, they have sexual counselling and treatment clinics,, and an open attitude towards sex,. If they have a problem, they can seek support. To use an inappropriate example, an old lady who has cooked all her life is not as good as a young chef, because professional training is so important.

I call upon you to eliminate all of these ugly foreign men. Some of you might already be blaming the Chinese women, but aren’t we all responsible for creating this situation for the ugly foreign men?

The kind of women who are only after money are everywhere in the world, in America they are called gold-diggers. In other parts of the world, these kinds of women are looked down upon. It’s only in China where they are respected and envied. This society, which mocks poverty but not wealth, is responsible for creating them.

An American Professor of Chinese, who has an incomparable love of Chinese history and cherishes Chinese culture, took her husband to China. But after not very long she decided to return home. “Every day my husband was surrounded by Chinese women, Some didn’t even bother disguising their excitement. In order to preserve my marriage, I decided it was best to return to America.” This American professor bemusedly stated, “Back in America, I read a Chinese novel from the eighties, the novel is full of women and their lovers who are not careful and accidentally have a baby, and end up having to throw it into the river.”

I also don’t get it, we’re all Chinese people, but in a short twenty years, our attitudes have changed so much.

I would like to know, the ones who give special attention to foreigners, especially the Americans, are they these same women? I can understand the American President’s visit to China being in the headlines, but everything else is taking it a bit far isn’t it? Don’t forget, the more fuss you make over them, the less fuss they might make over you.

Here, I am appealing for one thing: stop Chinese women from surrounding Western men. I am deeply aware that as an individual, my power is miniscule, so I want to encourage everybody to rise up: if you know any young Chinese girls who have opportunities to meet foreign men, please feel duty bound to show them this essay.

If you married a foreigner, bravely stand up and tell your sisters: your life abroad is actually lonely, repressed, painful, and homesick. If you are the parents of such people, don’t boast about your daughter’s life bound to this sluttish moneybags existence.

If you are a translator, under no circumstances get emotionally involved. Our translation of the names of foreign countries shows that we subconsciously have an inferiority complex to them. We translate the word America into “beautiful country,” whereas our Japanese neighbours translate it into “grain country,” a much better translation! If your imagination is vivid, don’t think of America as a perfect country, or a beautiful country, think of it as a grain production base.

If you work in an international company, don’t look up to foreigners. Foreign affairs are not all big affairs. Have a better attitude towards your own fellow citizens - foreigners come and go. Don’t forget, the food you eat is cooked by Chinese people, the clothes you wear are made by Chinese people, your salary is paid by Chinese people.

If you work in sport, don’t let foreigners earn Chinese people’ money. Most importantly, don’t welcome foreign thugs like Tyson into China again.

If you work in an insurance company, don’t look at foreigners differently again, treat them the same as your compatriots.

If you work in positions of authority, please be less corrupt. The corruption is the main reason for the bad atmosphere in our society, and this is your responsibility.

If you are an economist, don’t just think about your vested interests, don’t just think about powerful people. Say a few words for the man on the street please.

If you are a policy maker, do not get wrapped up in self-interest. If the mountains are bald, the water is smelly, the air is dirty, the dust storms are rising, and every day morals are declining., if nobody cares, and social harmony is lost, if the suffering are left for dead, then what does your power really count for?

If you’ve earned yourself some money, be kind. Have some morals in the way you spend it. Don’t be greedy and materialistic. Contribute to society.

If you are a doctor, please save people’s lives. Do your job ethically. Don’t let the angels in white die in your hands.

If you are a lawyer, respect the law. Don’t use your power to prey on innocent people.

If you are a film-maker, don’t waste all of your money on crowd-pleasing. Make some films about Chinese girls who turn down foreign men, or Chinese men who hook-up with Western girls.

If you work in dentistry, please recommend a decent toothpaste for the Chinese people. Today’s Chinese people rely too much on primitive methods of oral hygiene.

If you work in advertising, please have less of these disgusting words like “royal”, “noble” “elite”, “successful” and “luxury.”

If you serve as a role model for young kids, please impart to them a sense of shame. When I was young, my mother told me, clothes may be tattered, but will never be dirty; people may be poor, but will never be downtrodden; wealth cannot be prostituted, conviction cannot be destroyed, the head can be cut and blood can flow, but life is precious, love is even more valuable. Why don’t today’s children hear such speeches?

If you are a Chinese woman, hold your head up high. If you are a Chinese man, straighten your spine. In this world, there is an unalienable truth, if a person doesn’t respect himself, he will never achieve the respect of others. This is the same for both country and race.